{"id":152,"date":"2011-02-28T09:28:30","date_gmt":"2011-02-28T09:28:30","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/terapiastrategiczna.wordpress.com\/?p=152"},"modified":"2011-02-28T09:28:30","modified_gmt":"2011-02-28T09:28:30","slug":"skladnik-nr-5-a-nie-mowilam","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.agatarakfalska.com\/pl\/skladnik-nr-5-a-nie-mowilam\/","title":{"rendered":"Sk\u0142adnik nr 5. &#8211;  A nie m\u00f3wi\u0142am?"},"content":{"rendered":"<p><strong>Sk\u0142adniki niszcz\u0105ce komunikacj\u0119 z partnerem.<a href=\"https:\/\/www.agatarakfalska.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2011\/02\/communication_by_fotosapiens.jpg\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"alignright size-full wp-image-157\" title=\"communication_by_fotosapiens\" src=\"https:\/\/www.agatarakfalska.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2011\/02\/communication_by_fotosapiens.jpg\" alt=\"Ci\u0105g\u0142e nieporozumienia....\" width=\"204\" height=\"136\" \/><\/a><br \/>\n<\/strong>Poza podstawowymi formami komunikacji, kt\u00f3re niszcz\u0105 relacje z partnerem,\u00a0 jak wytykanie, obwinianie, g\u0142oszenie kaza\u0144, istniej\u0105 tak\u017ce mniej zauwa\u017calne sposoby powoduj\u0105ce irytacje i emocjonalne oddalanie si\u0119 partnera. S\u0105 to pojedyncze akty komunikacji, a nie sekwencje zda\u0144, ale ich niszcz\u0105cy efekt r\u00f3wnie\u017c jest zauwa\u017calny.<br \/>\nIch si\u0142a tkwi w natychmiastowym wywo\u0142aniu w naszym partnerze uczucia poirytowania, bycia sprowokowanym czy zdyskwalifikowanym. Najcz\u0119\u015bciej u\u017cywanym wyra\u017ceniem jest <strong><em>\u201eA nie m\u00f3wi\u0142am?!\u201d.<\/em><\/strong><br \/>\nTaka uwaga mo\u017ce wywo\u0142a\u0107 z\u0142o\u015b\u0107 w ka\u017cdym z nas, nawet w \u015bwi\u0119tym. My\u015bl\u0119, \u017ce nie ma czytelnika, kt\u00f3ry by nie do\u015bwiadczy\u0142 jej si\u0142y ra\u017cenia.<br \/>\nJej niszcz\u0105cy efekt jest proporcjonalny do si\u0142y emocjonalnego zwi\u0105zku z osob\u0105, kt\u00f3ra to m\u00f3wi, gdy\u017c im mocniej jeste\u015bmy zwi\u0105zani na poziomie afektywnym, tym bardziej nie do zniesienia staje si\u0119 to zdanie. A NIE M\u00d3WI\u0141AM!\u00a0 Istnieje wiele odmian tej frazy, np.<br \/>\n\u201eWiedzia\u0142em, \u017ce..\u201d<br \/>\n\u201eNie chcia\u0142e\u015b mi przyzna\u0107 racji. A widzisz?\u201d<br \/>\nMi\u0119dzy wierszami nasz partner nam komunikuje, \u017ce to my si\u0119 pomylili\u015bmy nie s\u0142uchaj\u0105c jego rad i nie bior\u0105c pod uwag\u0119 jego \u201es\u0142usznych\u201d uwag.<br \/>\nW momencie, kiedy ja sama jestem zdenerwowana faktem, \u017ce si\u0119 pomyli\u0142am, \u017ce pope\u0142ni\u0142am b\u0142\u0105d, uwaga us\u0142yszana od partnera, kt\u00f3ry mi wypomina, \u017ce jego nie pos\u0142ucha\u0142am, wcale mi nie pomaga, a co wi\u0119cej sprawia, \u017ce denerwuj\u0119 si\u0119 jeszcze bardziej na siebie i na partnera.<\/p>\n<p><em>Kiedy wypowiadamy t\u0119 niszcz\u0105c\u0105 fraz\u0119, zamieniamy si\u0119 w piorunochron z\u0142o\u015bci naszego partnera, daj\u0105c mu mo\u017cliwo\u015b\u0107 wy\u0142adowania na nas z\u0142o\u015bci, z powodu b\u0142\u0119du, kt\u00f3ry pope\u0142ni\u0142.<\/em><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Sk\u0142adniki niszcz\u0105ce komunikacj\u0119 z partnerem. 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Ich si\u0142a tkwi w natychmiastowym wywo\u0142aniu w naszym&hellip;<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":3,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_acf_changed":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[140],"tags":[138,149,150,151,141,152],"class_list":["post-152","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-problemy-relacyjne","tag-komunikacja","tag-konflikty","tag-klotnia","tag-malzenstwo","tag-problemy-rodzinnie","tag-terapia-par","category-140","description-off"],"acf":[],"yoast_head":"<!-- This site is optimized with the Yoast SEO plugin v27.4 - https:\/\/yoast.com\/product\/yoast-seo-wordpress\/ -->\n<title>Sk\u0142adnik nr 5. - A nie m\u00f3wi\u0142am? - Agata Rakfalska<\/title>\n<meta name=\"robots\" content=\"index, follow, max-snippet:-1, max-image-preview:large, max-video-preview:-1\" \/>\n<link rel=\"canonical\" href=\"https:\/\/www.agatarakfalska.com\/pl\/skladnik-nr-5-a-nie-mowilam\/\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:locale\" content=\"pl_PL\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:type\" content=\"article\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:title\" content=\"Sk\u0142adnik nr 5. - A nie m\u00f3wi\u0142am? - Agata Rakfalska\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:description\" content=\"Sk\u0142adniki niszcz\u0105ce komunikacj\u0119 z partnerem. 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